Something's gotta give..

Have recently signed up for a free trial with Bigpond for 6 weeks.. to watch dvds for free.. how good is that?

6 weeks, 4 dvds at one go.. i think it's a good deal.. as long as you don't forget to cancel the subscription at the end of 6 weeks.. otherwise it can be quite painful..

So far, I have watched..

- The Good Shepherd (Good)
- Something's Gotta Give (Good)
- Full Metal Jacket (forgettable)
- Curse of the Golden Flower (forgettable)
- Rocky Balboa (Not bad)
- The Illusionist (Good)
- Pride (Good)

I have 3 more dvds to watch this weekend.. namely, Serendipity, Master & Commander and Cousins..

The last one that we watched was Something's Gotta Give which was by Jack Nicholson and Diane Keaton.. really funny romantic comedy..

Here are some unforgettable quotes..

Harry: I have never lied to you, I have always told you some version of the truth.
Erica Barry: The truth doesn't have versions, okay?


Harry: Well, then let's just each get our bearings.
Erica Barry: I don't want my bearings. I've had my bearings my whole goddamn life. I feel something with you I never really knew existed. Do you know what that's like, after a 20-year marriage to feel something for another person that is so...? That... Oh, Right. Right. Not your problem. God. Do you know that I've written this, but I never really got it? Do you know what this is?
Harry: No.
Erica Barry: [Erica kisses Harry] This is heartbroken. How's that for impervious.
Harry: You're killing me.

Erica Barry: I just wish that it had lasted more than a week.
Harry: Me too.
Erica Barry: That is a terrible thing to say. You know, the life I had before you I knew how to do that. I could do that forever. But now look at me. What am I gonna do? What am I gonna do with all this?
Harry: Erica. Can you wait just a second? The truth is, I... I just... I don't know how to be a boyfriend.
Erica Barry: That's what you have to say after all of this? That you don't know how to be a boyfriend?
Harry: That's not a small thing.
Erica Barry: [shakes head] Are we done?
Harry: I don't know.
Erica Barry: Oh, my God.
[Erica gets in taxi and drives away]


After that scene.. I was thinking.. how do I know what it's like being a husband.. as much as being a boyfriend, a good friend, a best friend, a lover is concern.. I think I have some idea of those.. but husband..??

I definitely need to find a good role model or something.. can't rely on the media..

Everyone asks you the same question all the time.. so how's married life?

The truth is.. it's just like any other period of life.. it's full of ups and downs.. like a roller coaster.. there's the happiness, sadness, excitement, lull, disappointments, fights, make ups, tender moments, Kodak moments, sacrifices..

The only thing that is truthful from me and maybe a bit too honest is that we are stuck to each other 24/7 (not counting the going to work bit of separation)..

I know the word "stuck" is so unattractive but.. I guess it's sort of an accurate description.. perhaps.. later I might find a better word..

Life is never simple and having another person in your life til death do us part.. and being humans.. nothing is ideal.. that you would look at yourself and wonder what is the matter with you..

have you done something wrong?
have you set expectations too high?
are you too insecure?

The last thing that I would ever consciously do.. is to hurt the person I love so much.. but sometimes your actions/words will.. could it be the way that you were brought up.. or the way that you are so used to living.. that it's a transition period from being a single person all your life and now that you are married.. it takes time to ditch your bad habits.. and become more whole, more user friendly to your life partner, your lifelong companion..

I - certainly am a work in progress.. not too sure if there will ever be a completion stage.. ^_^

If no changes are made.. it certainly could be a nasty road trip ahead for the both of you.. =P

There is the school of thought that you should always end the day before sleeping with all disputes settled.. otherwise it could be a really uncomfy sleep..

For me.. I think it's good to settle things and to express your love to the other before the day ends.. coz you do not know that you just might not wake up the next morning..

What a feeling that would bring??

You fought.. and then sleep and wake up to find that the person you loved so much has passed on without ever telling you - that one last time, that they love you.. love you with all their heart, strength and might.. from the deepest recess of their heart.. and that one day.. you will be united together again in a better place..

I always had some fancy idea of writing or recording down my thoughts for my love ones.. just in case something happened to me..

You can't really take things for granted.. like that really touching movie by Adam Sandler - Reign Over Me.. about a man who lost his family in the Sept 11 tragedy.. in the movie he reveals that the last time he ever saw his wife and kids.. he was rushing out of the door and had a quarrel with his wife..

I guess the most important thing really is to fill all your remaining time with those happy Kodak moments.. those memories should be the ones that will bring smiles to your face when you are feeling down and out and all alone in life..

I wanna end this post with another scene from Something's Gotta Give..

Erica Barry: Are you crying?
Erica Barry: Yeah. It's my new thing. I've gotten abnormally brilliant at it.
Marin: Why? What is it?
Erica Barry: I'm in love. Ain't it great? Seems like I gotta learn how to that... love-them-and-leave-them stuff, you know?
Marin: Oh mom, I hate this. Now do you get my theory about all this? You gotta self-protect.
Erica Barry: You don't really buy this stuff you say, do you? You don't actually think that you can outsmart getting hurt?
Marin: I think it's worth trying.
Erica Barry: Listen to me. You can't hide from love for the rest of your life because maybe it won't work out... maybe you'll become unglued? It's just not a way to live.
Marin: Are you telling me this is good? What's happened to you?
Erica Barry: I think you should consider the possibility that you and I are more alike than you realize. I let someone in, and I had the time of my life.
Marin: I've never had the time of my life.
Erica Barry: I know, baby. And I say this from the deepest part of my heart. What are you waiting for?

So go on.. let someone in.. and have the time of your life.. life is too short to be too critical about love and life.. but you gotta bear in mind.. that you do not simply just let anyone into your heart.. =)

Peace out.